Junk Food Diaries

Road trips were a huge part of my childhood. My grandparents lived up around South Bend, along with aunts and uncles, and my parents liked to vacation, so we got to travel a lot.  One of my favorite memories is of my parents packing the van while my brothers and I played in the van. We knew it was about time to pull out when the red cooler and blue duffle bag containing all the …

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Being Uncomfortable

Some news in our world is that my brother Erik, who is developmentally disabled, is living in his own house. Well, a group home with one or two other guys like him that is staffed at all times. During the day he works. His life is full in a way I was never sure it would be. He’s 35 and for the first time he’s living away from my parents. It’s kind of a big …

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Raised by wolves

When my oldest three were little I held dance parties in the living room as way for them, and me,  to blow off steam. I would turn the music up loud and we’d dance and shout until we were panting for air. Sometimes we’d have freeze dance parties if we were bored with the regular kind. I would turn the volume down on the radio and the kids would have to hold whatever position for …

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Getting through

A lot of what has gotten me through the hard times is laughter. I really think that there is almost always something funny to be found. Call it dark humor, irony, whatever but acknowledge that there’s funny stuff even in the most difficult situations. Erma Bombeck totally got this. Two of my favorite Erma quotes ( but it’s sooooo hard to pick just two! Just read her books. Quote the whole book.) are:   There …

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Sometimes a fresh start doesn’t feel fresh

A year ago we walked out of one life and into another. We needed a fresh start. Four months into our fresh start things didn’t feel so fresh. Our fresh start felt more like a slap in the face with a cold, smelly, dead fish. We weren’t naive, though. We knew it would be hard. I just didn’t think it would be this kind of hard. What really stinks about life sometimes is that what is good …

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Empty Streets

The big selling point on moving to this neighborhood was ‘there will be lots of kids your age’. It’s the neighborhood I grew up in. There’s an elementary school, a church park, and a city park in this neighborhood. Kid central. When I was growing up there were kids all over. We played kickball in the street, we roamed the sidewalks until dark, and if we were doing something we shouldn’t the neighbors yelled at …

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